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OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO ONE we see a person who is quick to sense that something is not what it could or should be. Attention is drawn to what needs to be improved. The person may appear legalistic, moralistic, perhaps even a bit puritanical, but behind this can often be a hidden bad girl or bad boy side. Organizational masters for the reason that everything needs to be right in their world, they interpret and process information according to what’s wrong or as it "should" be, paying little attention to the good that is already there. They take pride in being exact. If what you have offers them a better way, a way to improve, a way to organize, a way to streamline, not so much for efficiency as for a picture of a better system, better world, a feeling of everything being in its place, sorted out and NOT in disarray, you can reach them so long as you are not criticizing them. They often have a picture of perfection (theirs not necessarily yours) in their minds eye. Don't under estimate this and realize that they have an inner critic and can be harder on themselves than any thing you can dish out. Be patient, understand and try not to take the frustration they experience as real life fails to match up to that mental picture personally. Invite them to the serenity prayer.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO TWO we see a person who meets their own needs by meeting the needs of others. They organize, interpret and process information according to interpersonal relationships. There is often a hidden pride in the role they play for the betterment of others. Whereas a ONE wants you out of their organized kitchen, a TWO wants you to stop organizing so you can get out of the kitchen and spend time with them. One way to reach them is by helping them help others, deepen relationships and express their love, appreciation or concern for others, but a better way might be to help them discern what it is they need. They are really skilled at focusing on the needs of others, but often deaf to what it is they need. Where as NINES freeze when asked what they want, TWOS freeze when asked what they need.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO THREE we see a person whose thoughts, words and deeds reflect that they perceive a world that does not turn without them. Attention is drawn to what they bring to the world: efficiency and achievement. They organize, interpret and process information by noticing the inefficient attitudes and behaviors of those around them, often failing to pay attention to the work done and successes achieved without them. They take pride in the rungs of the ladder they climb and the kudos they receive thanks to their accomplishments. Show them a more efficient way to do something, a way that streamlines a process, leads to a better system, helps them solve a problem and leaves them looking really good in the eyes of others. Gently help them see the inefficiencies in what they believe to be efficient as they view it from the eight other portfolios. For example, when it comes to relationship and team building much is accomplished simply by spending time relating rather than doing.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO FOUR we see a person whose story involves a world where others have what they don’t and they have what others won’t. Attention is drawn to comparison. They organize, interpret and process information comparing themselves with others. Outwardly they take pride in being aristocrats in exile, strangers in a strange land but inwardly they see themselves as tragically flawed, and imminently about to be abandoned. Give them a way for them to set themselves apart from everyone else. They need to feel unique, special and definitely not ordinary. They are “Charlie the Tuna” and think that what people need is Tuna with good taste not Tuna that tastes great.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO FIVE we find attention drawn to the acquisition of knowledge; the powers of observation and the protection of insights. FIVEs organize, interpret and process information according to supply and demand, often seeing demand as higher than their supply. They take pride in economy of thought. They are persons who have mastered the art of observation. They are capable of absorbing a lot of information from seemingly very little. Not only is it advisable to listen to their short synopsis of a meeting, book, presentation, etc but also to ask for it. They will be unlikely to share much more than the short synopsis as even that will deplete their energies. Help them gather the right information, fine tune their powers of observation and find time and space to be with that information apart from other people.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO SIX we see a person who lives in a world where dangerous lurks. So attention is drawn to security. They organize, interpret and process information according to the threat or danger. They take pride in ferreting out danger and in playing devil’s advocate. They have a love hate relationship with authority. They need to know what the experts say, gather data, read reviews and consult the thoughts, feelings and opinions of others prior to making up their own mind. They are persons who seek protection for self and others, persons who rely on something outside of themselves to make a decision (i.e. another opinion, stats, reports, what the experts say). You can be the expert or a more generous way of relating might be to help them uncover their own inner guidance system. After all when it comes to our own life, we are, in the end, the best and only expert we need.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO SEVEN we see a collection of positive possibilities which in some way denies, avoids, escapes or minimizes pain and suffering. You know you have entered the world of portfolio SEVEN when the person moves through thoughts, possibilities and projects like the flight of a hummingbird. They tend to avoid getting stuck in one thing. And, they like approaching one thing from many, many, many different angles. They are persons who like to keep going, like things that bring joy and happiness, persons who get bored quickly and who love spontaneity. Don't put them in a box. Give them options.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO EIGHT we see a person who avoids being dependent on anyone or anything. Their attention is drawn to slights, abuses, and manipulations of self and others. They organize, interpret and process information according to what builds strength, self-reliance and self-sufficiency. These are persons who push their energy into the world, who are not afraid, command or contain lots of energy so as not to be moved or pushed around. Reach them by shooting straight.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO NINE we see a person who excels at keeping the peace. Energy is pulled back, contained or diverted into routine tasks or what may benefit others in their environment. They are inclusive to the exclusion of their own wants, needs or desires. They organize, interpret and process information according to what burdens or unburdens others. They take pride in being easy to get along with. Market niche: easy going persons who sometimes best find their way to what they want by first identifying what they don’t. These persons easily fade into the background. Don’t let them. When they say that it does not matter to them or they have no preference, don’t believe them. Ask questions that help them articulate what they don’t want, would not like to happen or would not like to see. Even though they still may not be able to articulate it or minimize it, going through this process with them will help you gain clarity as to what they really do want.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO TWO we see a person who meets their own needs by meeting the needs of others. They organize, interpret and process information according to interpersonal relationships. There is often a hidden pride in the role they play for the betterment of others. Whereas a ONE wants you out of their organized kitchen, a TWO wants you to stop organizing so you can get out of the kitchen and spend time with them. One way to reach them is by helping them help others, deepen relationships and express their love, appreciation or concern for others, but a better way might be to help them discern what it is they need. They are really skilled at focusing on the needs of others, but often deaf to what it is they need. Where as NINES freeze when asked what they want, TWOS freeze when asked what they need.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO THREE we see a person whose thoughts, words and deeds reflect that they perceive a world that does not turn without them. Attention is drawn to what they bring to the world: efficiency and achievement. They organize, interpret and process information by noticing the inefficient attitudes and behaviors of those around them, often failing to pay attention to the work done and successes achieved without them. They take pride in the rungs of the ladder they climb and the kudos they receive thanks to their accomplishments. Show them a more efficient way to do something, a way that streamlines a process, leads to a better system, helps them solve a problem and leaves them looking really good in the eyes of others. Gently help them see the inefficiencies in what they believe to be efficient as they view it from the eight other portfolios. For example, when it comes to relationship and team building much is accomplished simply by spending time relating rather than doing.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO FOUR we see a person whose story involves a world where others have what they don’t and they have what others won’t. Attention is drawn to comparison. They organize, interpret and process information comparing themselves with others. Outwardly they take pride in being aristocrats in exile, strangers in a strange land but inwardly they see themselves as tragically flawed, and imminently about to be abandoned. Give them a way for them to set themselves apart from everyone else. They need to feel unique, special and definitely not ordinary. They are “Charlie the Tuna” and think that what people need is Tuna with good taste not Tuna that tastes great.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO FIVE we find attention drawn to the acquisition of knowledge; the powers of observation and the protection of insights. FIVEs organize, interpret and process information according to supply and demand, often seeing demand as higher than their supply. They take pride in economy of thought. They are persons who have mastered the art of observation. They are capable of absorbing a lot of information from seemingly very little. Not only is it advisable to listen to their short synopsis of a meeting, book, presentation, etc but also to ask for it. They will be unlikely to share much more than the short synopsis as even that will deplete their energies. Help them gather the right information, fine tune their powers of observation and find time and space to be with that information apart from other people.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO SIX we see a person who lives in a world where dangerous lurks. So attention is drawn to security. They organize, interpret and process information according to the threat or danger. They take pride in ferreting out danger and in playing devil’s advocate. They have a love hate relationship with authority. They need to know what the experts say, gather data, read reviews and consult the thoughts, feelings and opinions of others prior to making up their own mind. They are persons who seek protection for self and others, persons who rely on something outside of themselves to make a decision (i.e. another opinion, stats, reports, what the experts say). You can be the expert or a more generous way of relating might be to help them uncover their own inner guidance system. After all when it comes to our own life, we are, in the end, the best and only expert we need.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO SEVEN we see a collection of positive possibilities which in some way denies, avoids, escapes or minimizes pain and suffering. You know you have entered the world of portfolio SEVEN when the person moves through thoughts, possibilities and projects like the flight of a hummingbird. They tend to avoid getting stuck in one thing. And, they like approaching one thing from many, many, many different angles. They are persons who like to keep going, like things that bring joy and happiness, persons who get bored quickly and who love spontaneity. Don't put them in a box. Give them options.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO EIGHT we see a person who avoids being dependent on anyone or anything. Their attention is drawn to slights, abuses, and manipulations of self and others. They organize, interpret and process information according to what builds strength, self-reliance and self-sufficiency. These are persons who push their energy into the world, who are not afraid, command or contain lots of energy so as not to be moved or pushed around. Reach them by shooting straight.
OPENING PERSONALITY PORTFOLIO NINE we see a person who excels at keeping the peace. Energy is pulled back, contained or diverted into routine tasks or what may benefit others in their environment. They are inclusive to the exclusion of their own wants, needs or desires. They organize, interpret and process information according to what burdens or unburdens others. They take pride in being easy to get along with. Market niche: easy going persons who sometimes best find their way to what they want by first identifying what they don’t. These persons easily fade into the background. Don’t let them. When they say that it does not matter to them or they have no preference, don’t believe them. Ask questions that help them articulate what they don’t want, would not like to happen or would not like to see. Even though they still may not be able to articulate it or minimize it, going through this process with them will help you gain clarity as to what they really do want.